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Making peace with my clutter- “Clutter is nothing but postponed decisions.” (Barbara Hemphill)

I grew up, using my imagination, making memories and crafts out of paper towel rolls and cardboard boxes. We never wasted, but everything had an expiration date or was recycled. Clothes were only bought at the beginning of fall, spring, and, of course, at the start of the school year. Toys were gifted at Christmas and birthdays… And if it wasn’t part of one of your collections, you admired it at the store or at a friend’s house.

Decades have passed, three kids later, and, well, I have derailed… the wheels have fallen off. Somehow, I have fallen victim to instant gratification with a side dish of hoarding. (no, I would not call it a collection, though it would make me feel a whole lot better)

I sit at my computer, typing, disturbed by all the clutter that is taking up space without paying rent. It’s like an old friend that has overstayed its welcome but you just don’t have the heart to ask them to leave. The excuses ring through my head:

  1. “I spent money on it”… do you know how expensive that was?
  2. “It kind of fits”… I’ll pass it on to so-and-so or I’ll lose weight, eventually.
  3. “They will play with it one day.”
  4. “I can’t just throw it away”… that’s wasteful. I’ll take it to Goodwill, someday.
  5. “Oh, the memories”

But at some point, I have to make peace with my clutter. Breakups are tough.

My kids are about to be out of the house for two weeks and the timing couldn’t be better. I will pick up a bottle of wine and quietly go through each room and say my farewells.

While I will make sure I have a special spot for the things I love, I will, with open arms, make room for new memories and opportunities. I will clear out the noise and welcome the tranquility of peace.

VERANDA posted a great article, filled with 20 inspiring quotes on decluttering. Here are my top 3…

1.“The first step in crafting the life you want is to get rid of everything you don’t.” – Joshua Becker

2. “Oh! Old rubbish! Old letters, old clothes, old objects that one does not want to throw away. How well nature has understood that, every year, she must change her leaves, her flowers, her fruit and her vegetables, and make manure out of the mementos of her year!” – Jules Renard

3.“What I know for sure is that when you declutter — whether it’s your home, your head, or your heart — it is astounding what will flow into that space that will enrich you, your life, and your family.” – Peter Walsh

Happy Cleaning! 🙂 Annie xox

8 thoughts on “Making peace with my clutter- “Clutter is nothing but postponed decisions.” (Barbara Hemphill)

  1. When can we expect the follow up post that the cleansing has been completed. Are we talking days, weeks, months or years as it took to achieve the clutter. As always someone wants a report. 😎😎😎

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    • I don’t know if I’m more excited about the bottle of wine of the decluttering… or crying that will go with going through all my kids stuff. Either way, it will be therapeutic!!!

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  2. I love this piece, Annie. It’s very well written and perfectly describes the task of decluttering. Having just cleared out my son’s old room, which became the junk room, I know how you feel about being sentimental about all your collected items. I feel the same. The decorating here begins on Tuesday, with someone else coming tomorrow to help clear the garage out. You should see the stuff in there! I think it’s going to be an all-day job. It’s hard to part with things we’ve had for so long, especially old children’s toys and box games, as they are so often sentimental. I will be writing about the ‘journey’ of my spare room on its travels to becoming the new spare bedroom for when my son and the children move in. It’s a huge undertaking. Good for you for tackling the clutter in your house. A great and inspiring post, Annie. Thanks X 💛

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    • Thank you!!❤️ Our garage became a catch all! The only time we’ve ever successfully organized it, was when a garage sale followed the very next day. I have memories from when I was in high school, up in the attic. It’s an old dusty box that has survived a move to the US, college and three homes! It’s earned it’s place. It makes me think that it might be a sweet afternoon with my kids… digging through memory lane! Good luck with the garage! I look forward to your post! 🙂 Annie

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      • You wouldn’t believe what we found in my garage. It’s now almost empty, waiting for my son and grandchildren to move in with me. My son, Tom, needs storage space, so I felt it would be a good idea to have a clear-out. I found some greetings cards my children had sent me when they were young and some that I had sent them, too. I’m keeping those as they may want to have a browse through them next time they are here. I haven’t had a minute today to write my post. The decorator has been in, and I’ve been completely absorbed with that. It’s going to be a busy week. Still, hopefully, I will have some time to write, perhaps, tomorrow or Thursday, depending on what is happening here. I’m well overdue for writing a post, so I don’t want to leave it for too much longer. Ellie 😘

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